top of page

Find your Flavor of Polyamory

Writer: Laura BoyleLaura Boyle

Polyamory is a Choose Your Own Adventure Book


The upside of polyamory, as I hope I’ve said on this blog before, and I’ve said in every class I’ve ever taught out loud, is that it’s a choose your own adventure book. Every choice you make is a major choice that sets a path forward for each relationship, or that completely ends a path for it. I say this because there’s exactly the pattern of a CYOA book.





Sometimes you land in a hole and have to find a way out of one and your choice gets you back on a path or fails you and you end that one and return to the beginning of the book. It’s a negotiated, repeated as many successful times as you like to however “far into” the book is comfortable for each of your relationships. The book has many endings; each story has many ways it can go; each hole has many ways to get out or many ways to get stuck inside. It’s not a tv show - it’s a video game. There is no script, but there are missions. There are sections. There are patterns.


There is no other shape to polyamory. Polyamory is equally valid if it’s a triad you drive around a hole or into it or out of it or over it - or if it’s a constellation where you only have any control in two connections but those two don’t touch each other in the least. There is no magic shape or guidebook, even though we all keep trying to write them, in whole or in bits and pieces, and THAT is what I want you to take away. This is your adventure. This is your life. Live it.

6 Comments


Hiring a Los Angeles birthday party magician is a fantastic way to make your event unforgettable. Whether you’re hosting a children’s party or a sophisticated adult gathering, a magician brings wonder and excitement to any occasion. With their mind-blowing tricks and engaging performances, they will captivate guests of all ages. A Los Angeles birthday party magician tailors their show to suit your theme and venue, ensuring everyone is entertained. Don’t miss out on this unique entertainment option to elevate your next birthday party!

Like

solar smash offers a wide array of destruction methods, allowing players to experiment with different strategies.

Like

wovoto7582
Nov 07, 2024

Games and adventure go hand in hand, offering exciting experiences that transport you to different worlds, challenge your skills, and ignite your sense of exploration. Whether it's through outdoor activities like hiking and treasure hunts or digital games that let you embark on epic quests, adventure awaits in every corner. The thrill of the unknown is what keeps adventurers coming back for more, pushing boundaries and embracing new challenges. For those who enjoy the excitement of games with a bit of risk, online platforms like https://pin-up-uz.casino/ offer an adventurous twist, combining entertainment with the possibility of winning big. Whether it's a virtual roulette table or a daring game of poker, these experiences bring an extra layer of excitement to the…

Like

nisete4546
Oct 19, 2024

Looking to spice up your corporate Christmas party with these great entertainment ideas Start by bringing in a live band or DJ to create an energetic atmosphere that encourages everyone to hit the dance floor. For something interactive, set up a photo booth with festive props or organize fun team-building games like a holiday trivia contest. You can also add a touch of sophistication with a wine or cocktail tasting station. For a memorable twist, hire a magician, comedian, or even a karaoke setup to engage employees. These ideas will ensure your corporate holiday party is unforgettable and full of festive cheer!

Like

nemel98325
Sep 17, 2024

When considering buying Botox online, it’s crucial to prioritize safety and authenticity. The allure of convenience can be tempting, but ensure you’re purchasing from a reputable source to avoid counterfeit products. Verify that the online seller provides legitimate documentation and customer reviews. It's also wise to consult with a healthcare professional before proceeding. Ultimately, while buying Botox online might offer savings, protecting your health and ensuring you receive a genuine product should be the top priority.

Like
bottom of page