Many of us are familiar with the metaphorical image of the "downward spiral" - of things getting worse, rapidly, personally or...

Boundaries have, in some ways, become a buzzword. People use "boundary" to describe personal boundaries, relationship agreements, rules,...

Some people (like yours truly) are talkers - they show interest by sharing the everyday and mundane in any format available to them...

Attachment theory, broadly speaking, is looking at human success as determined by connection and emotional bond-building. The original...

One of the big upsides of polyamory folks often point out is that you have the option of getting your emotional and relational needs met...

I wrote a while back about how our partners can support us when we’re having our ‘darker’ emotions. I argued, in that post, that a lot of...

So, I’ve talked about how fighting to win is, generally, fighting to lose - and because of that, there’s a strong corollary to that...

Have you heard of Apology Languages? Do you know yours? We’ve previously discussed Love Languages, and how those five categories can...

No one wins when you fight to win. I shared this post on my personal Facebook page this week, which was attributed to someone named...

We talk a lot about self-care in polyamory. We talk about it as a necessity; we talk about it in opposition to caring for others or...

...I'm not. Today's post brought to you by the generous and anonymous monogamous heart-friend of the blog who we'll call Lily because...

So, I don’t know if you might have seen this coming, what with the contents of “Love in the Time of Covid 2: Pandemic Bugaloo”; but my...

Not all self-discoveries are positive. Sometimes, the things you find about yourself when you’re self-examining that you need to work on....

It's been reported everywhere from Wickedlocal to The New York Times, and I don't think I can turn on any form of social media without...

There’s a lot of factors that feed into successful relationship agreements, into feeling free to express yourself, into being...

If we could build a model of my mind (very different from my brain, I’ve seen loads of those), it would be the midieval castle at Haut...

If you don’t get my extremely dated reference, that man is a character from one of the first police procedurals, the 1950s Dragnet, Joe...