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Laura Boyle
Nov 307 min read
Do All Polyamorous People Look Like That?
...and other reflections on life as fat polyamorous woman. I have never been a thin person. When I was younger, I was less fat - in the...
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Laura Boyle
Sep 274 min read
Shame and Fluid Bonding
If you’ve been around these parts for any length of time, you’ve probably heard my stump speech on the term fluid bonding and why I don’t...
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Laura Boyle
Aug 143 min read
"Cowboys" and abdicating responsibility
One of the most evocative terms in the polyamory glossary is the cowboy or cowgirl - a monogamous partner who becomes involved with a...
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Laura Boyle
Jul 242 min read
Change and the Power of Paradigm Shifts
The biggest paradigm shift between traditional monogamy and non-traditional relationships of any kind (relationship anarchy, whether you...
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Laura Boyle
Apr 224 min read
Priorities and Hierarchy
Let's talk Relationship Anarchy, priorities, and hierarchy. Those of you who are even a little familiar with relationship anarchy (even...
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Laura Boyle
Feb 272 min read
Mindset, Growth, and Grief in Relationships
Our cultural messaging around relationships, around self-knowledge, and around love (of the self and of each other) is focused very...
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Laura Boyle
Jan 302 min read
Compromise and What's Expected
There are a number of social conventions that are broadly undermined by polyamorous relating but especially so by non-hierarchical...
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Laura Boyle
Jan 22 min read
Compatibility & Non-monogamy
When we move from a monogamous to a non-monogamous context, sometimes the contraction of our dating pool can make it feel like the most...
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Laura Boyle
Dec 4, 20232 min read
Relationship Anarchy - A Smorgasbord of Options "Instead of Entitlement"
You may have heard of the Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord - a concept which takes a metaphor of relationships as meals where you and...
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Laura Boyle
Nov 28, 20233 min read
I Don't Want HER Date! - Differentiating Relationships
It can feel very natural, when seeing multiple people, if you have a really nice experience (try a good restaurant that turns out to be...
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Laura Boyle
Nov 24, 20232 min read
Commitment off the Escalator
We talked last time about the Relationship Escalator, the social expectations that generally circumscribe romantic relationships in our...
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Laura Boyle
Nov 21, 20233 min read
What is the Relationship Escalator?
I was having coffee with a friend the other day and catching up about our recent dating lives (and their complications in labels and lack...
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Laura Boyle
Nov 16, 20232 min read
Don't Force It
Have you ever had a hinge partner insist on a particular relationship between you and a metamour? Either directly, or by only having time...
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Laura Boyle
Oct 26, 20236 min read
Home for the Polydays
Let's talk about polyamory and the holiday season. (Sorry, Canadian friends - I know you already did Thanksgiving, and I hope it was...
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Laura Boyle
Sep 25, 20233 min read
It Doesn't Look the Same Twice
If you took snapshots of my polyamorous life from the moment 17 years ago when I was on a date and was asked if I'd heard of polyamory?...
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Laura Boyle
Sep 15, 20233 min read
Seven Days of Kink, Parts 3 and 4: Do you like D/s? How Much?
Sorry for skipping a day on you folks, life ate me a little bit - and these two prompts go nicely together, so you'll maybe forgive me....
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Laura Boyle
Sep 13, 20232 min read
Seven Days of Kink, Part 2: Nostalgia
Today for 7 days of Kink, the prompt was "What is your favorite kink, and why?" and my short answer was impact, and my long answer was a...
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Laura Boyle
Sep 12, 20233 min read
Seven Days of Kink, Part 1: Origin Story
Welcome to the Seven Days of Kink series here on Ready for Polyamory. As you'll have noticed if you've been around here a while, my...
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Laura Boyle
Sep 5, 20233 min read
Boundaries Are Different for Everybody
Boundaries are for everyone - but the boundaries you set are different with each person or type of person. We don't set the same type of...
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Laura Boyle
Sep 1, 20232 min read
Relationship Agreement Tune Ups
Does your communication need a tune-up? Folks often find themselves talking at cross-purposes when they’re talking about relationship...
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